How to Stop Waiting Until You Lose Weight to Live Your Life.

For a long time, I didn’t realize how much of my life I was putting on hold. I used to tell myself things like:
When I lose weight, I’ll travel.
When I lose weight, I’ll wear the clothes I actually like.
When I lose weight, I’ll finally feel comfortable being seen and being the center of attention…this is maybe not so much lol.

Somewhere along the way, I started believing that my life didn’t really begin until my body became smaller.

Do you know Samyra? If you don’t, then you might be living under a rock. She is a plussize influencer who talks about travel, fashion, going outside of the standards and societal pressures and being THAT girl. I know a lot of people don’t agree with her and the things she points out and some even have strong, displaced hatred for the things she says, but I love my girl. What I appreciate about her is that she talks about things many people are too uncomfortable or afraid to say out loud.

Watching her speak so boldly about living life as a fat woman made me start thinking about my own life and the ways I’ve been holding myself back.

Now, I’ll be honest, this mindset is still new to me. I’m just now learning how to really live, and I’m in my late 20s.

For years, I moved through the world believing I had to wait. Wait until my body changed. Wait until I looked different. Wait until I felt “acceptable.” And the truth is, when you live like that, life starts to feel like it’s always somewhere in the future. It’s about finding your happiness in the now, not thinking “well I’ll only be happy when “this” happens for me”

But something I’m realizing now is that waiting steals time.

Waiting steals experiences.
Waiting steals joy.
Waiting steals memories you could have been making right now.

The Lie We’re Taught

From the time many of us are young, we’re taught that thinness is the gateway to everything: love, confidence, happiness, success. The message is subtle sometimes and loud other times, but it’s always there.

Lose weight and life will get better.

But what no one tells you is that if you build your happiness around a future version of yourself, you might miss the person you already are.

Life Doesn’t Start After Weight Loss

There is nothing wrong with wanting to take care of your body or work toward goals for your health. Hell, I’m doing that right now but there is something harmful about believing that your life can’t begin until you reach a certain number on a scale.

You deserve to:

Take pictures.
Wear the clothes you like.
Go to the beach.
Date.
Laugh loudly.
Be seen.

Not later.
But Now.

So, what is this teaching me?

Like I said, this is still a new way of thinking for me. I’m still unlearning years of messaging that told me I had to earn my life by shrinking my body. But I’m starting to understand that living fully isn’t something you unlock after weight loss. It’s something you choose. You choose it when you stop waiting. You choose it when you allow yourself to experience joy in the body you have today. And maybe that’s what this blog is about for me, learning how to stop postponing my own life.

If you’ve been waiting too, just know you’re not alone. Maybe we can figure this out together.

With love K. 🩷